Did you know that most coaches in the US do not pursue supervision? Doctors do it. Therapists do it. Counselors do it. Europeans do it! Supervision is new to the US coaching industry and is an important way to maintain or elevate the development of your coaching as well as your well-being. “Coaching supervision is…
Do you want to win, or do you want to work something out? Isn’t that a showstopper of a question? I’ve been focused heavily on the power of the reframe with my coaching students and clients and want to introduce the angle of “asking different questions”. It’s no secret that I am a disciple of…
It may seem obvious, but helping others with their emotions can improve your own ability to self-regulate and take perspective. New research shows that helping others with their emotions by using perspective taking, reframing, reappraisal (even just over email!) can benefit your very own well-being and decrease the blues (Borre, Morris, Burr, Picard, Ochsner, 2017).So keep coaching!…
My 7 year old niece drew this for me. It is one of the most precious things in my apartment. Notice her correct usage of ‘than’ versus ‘then’ and the heart exclamation point. How optimistic, how loving, how inspiring, how girlie. I hope and pray she grows up to be a self-authored, self-determined, sovereign woman…
There’s a coaching lesson here I promise. Like many Americans this week, I will gather together with family to share food and drink, and passive aggressive expressions of good cheer and merriment. Thankfully my gathering happened early allowing me to return blissfully back to my authentic self and real world until Christmas. I always prefer…
Ken Burns and Lynn Novick created an epic 18-hour documentary on the Vietnam War that has been airing on PBS. What can be learned anew from our difficult past? Hubris is fatal. Marshall Goldsmith and Edgar Schein, giants in the field of coaching and leadership, have both said it – the need to win is…
Leaders, Managers – give it a try. “How is Life Outside of Work?” is one of my favorite coaching questions. It unlocks an iceberg of data that may be related to the presenting problem. It builds trust if asked with authenticity. At the end of the day, you are managing people, not problems. You are…
One of my favorite coaching questions. Some clients fill our sessions with a detailed inventory of what they heard in the break room, what their friends say they should and shouldn’t do, myths about how to get promoted, myths about who gets promoted, myths about the next step to take, business school dos and don’ts….
I’m not talking about jumping off any bridges mind you. When I was 15, I started a summer filing job with the casting office of the New York City Joseph Papp Public Theater. As a nerdy, four eyed kid from the provincial land of Chinatown just 2 miles away, I was ill equipped to function…